When are we going to grow out of these preferences?
I think you will agree with me when I say that we as a nation are obsessed with fair skin. I always thought that this preference for the fairer skin tone was only restricted to marriage. Most people who start bride/groom-hunting always want a ‘fair beautiful bride’ or a ‘fair handsome groom’. But I never understood the philosophy or logic behind this preference.
Why does everyone want a ‘fair’ life-partner?
Is being light-coloured the only thing that makes a girl beautiful or a man handsome? I have never felt so. I hate it when someone asks me “What beauty products do you use that you are so fair?”
My reply is always the same – Nothing, and even you shouldn’t use products that promise to make you fair.
I wish everyone out there realised that they are all a beautiful creation of God. I don’t think anything can really change your skin colour; and honestly, you shouldn’t even desire for a change. You are beautiful the way you are. Just be confident and love yourself.
All of these events happened before I became a mother. But what came as a shock was a question from a mum-to-be, who actually asked me –
“What did you eat to get a fair baby? Even I want a fair-child.”
I couldn’t believe it! A mum-to-be, who should have only been concerned about giving birth to a healthy baby was actually asking me for tips on how to get a fair baby! I have seen mums asking this question online as well, something on the lines of – “My child is dark, what should I do?”
I replied to the mum who asked me on similar lines as I had to all the people who approached me before – Nothing to get a fair one, but everything to get a healthy one.
To all the moms who have a ‘dark’ baby, all I want to say is – Love your child to the core; that’s all you need to do, lady.
It is the genes of the parents that create the baby and his skin colour. You cannot change it using anything. And why should you? Mums shouldn’t have even a pinch of doubt on their own creation. They should be thankful to God that they have a healthy and a lovely baby.
It is not on the basis of his skin-colour that your child is going to achieve things in life – that only happens in advertisements! Your child will scale peaks of achievements only through efforts taken by your child and by you. Your focus in the early days of your child should be on how well you can groom your kid, how you can teach them things like learning to share, learning to respect others, learning to treat everyone equal, learning to accept failure, learning to accept responsibility, learning courtesy, learning to be confident, and learning to never give up.
Children are all to be loved – dark or fair, it shouldn’t matter. That is all they need to make the world look fair to them. They are so pure. There is so much of innocence in them. Childhood has no impurities, no anger, no jealousy, no religion and of course, no colour. Just enjoy your child’s childhood mums… these years, once gone, will never come back. Cherish them with lots of love!